| In order to have success in life you need to | | | | that, you can change roles if they don't match |
| figure out what is expected of you and take | | | | what you were expecting. Knowing what is |
| responsibility to make sure that those | | | | important to the other person and providing that |
| expectations are fulfilled. You would hope that the | | | | (if possible) can make your relationship go much |
| expectations are clearly defined. If you are talking | | | | more smoothly. |
| about your professional life, this should be | | | | Once you find and accept the role within the |
| explained by your manager and should be | | | | relationship, it is up to you to live up to your part |
| described in your job description. If it is in your | | | | of the bargain. Personal integrity is something that |
| personal life, you need to define your own goals, | | | | you and you alone, are responsible for. It is one |
| and then talk to the people around you to see | | | | of those things that, once broken, is extremely |
| what they expect of you. | | | | difficult to rebuild. This is your reputation we are |
| In marriage two people often have different ideas | | | | talking about and that should be taken seriously. |
| about what the other person is bringing to the | | | | Again, this works both ways in a relationship and |
| relationship. Do you expect (or hope) your spouse | | | | as long as both parties live up to the agreement it |
| will cook the meals? Have they ever verbalized | | | | can and will be a win-win situation. |
| that? Maybe in general they are willing to do that, | | | | It all boils down to mutual respect and |
| but occasionally you surprising them by preparing | | | | understanding. At work we need to be |
| a feast will really make their day and also make | | | | professionals and that will make all the difference. |
| you appreciate what they do for you on a regular | | | | Don't let personality interfere with what you need |
| basis. What if they had no idea that you expected | | | | to do. Likewise in personal situations, as long as |
| the meals prepared and don't understand why | | | | there is respect and integrity, there should be |
| you are grumpy when tempting smells are not | | | | smooth sailing. |
| wafting from the kitchen around mealtimes. | | | | Communication is the basis for all of this. With |
| Expectations are best met when they are | | | | expectations clearly defined and roles assigned |
| defined. Sit down with your spouse, co-worker or | | | | communication is the grease that keeps the |
| boss and ask them what they expect of you. | | | | process moving along smoothly. We all mature, |
| Ask them "what does a good spouse/employee | | | | change and grow as individuals and people can |
| look like to you? What would you hope to see | | | | accept that change is part of life. The key is |
| someone in my role to do?" It is a two way | | | | understanding why things are changing, |
| street. The basis of a good relationship is knowing | | | | acknowledging that change and keeping lines of |
| what is expected on both sides. Once you know | | | | communication open. |